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Bloggingheads 09-06-2011 10:50 PM

Values Added: Monogamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 

sugarkang 09-06-2011 11:04 PM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
Props to Dan for articulating my position on the failure of monogamy. Am I the only commenter to hold this view?

badhatharry 09-06-2011 11:14 PM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by sugarkang (Post 224892)
Props to Dan for articulating my position on the failure of monogamy. Am I the only commenter to hold this view?

which view? the props to Dan or the failure of monogamy?

five minutes in, I don't agree much with Dan at all. I don't think he articulates the majority view but he seems to think he does.

sugarkang 09-06-2011 11:23 PM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by badhatharry (Post 224894)
which view? the props to Dan or the failure of monogamy?

The failure of monogamy. Actually, I shouldn't be so harsh. I don't think it's an absolute failure, I just think it has shortcomings. First, it's biologically irrational. Second, it's patently unsustainable as life span increases. Third, it's the cause of great unhappiness.

I'm not idealistic about it. Getting rid of monogamy would have social costs, too. That's not exactly what I'd want.

badhatharry 09-06-2011 11:37 PM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by sugarkang (Post 224897)
The failure of monogamy. Actually, I shouldn't be so harsh. I don't think it's an absolute failure, I just think it has shortcomings. First, it's biologically irrational. Second, it's patently unsustainable as life span increases. Third, it's the cause of great unhappiness.

I'm not idealistic about it. Getting rid of monogamy would have social costs, too. That's not exactly what I'd want.

Well, then I guess you are the type of person Dan is speaking for. And there will be costs, for sure. I guess I just don't see that Dan is saying anything revolutionary. These options have been open to people for quite a while.

Maybe what he's after is to get rid of the stigma...which isn't very consequential these days either.

sugarkang 09-07-2011 12:11 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by badhatharry (Post 224900)
Well, then I guess you are the type of person Dan is speaking for. And there will be costs, for sure. I guess I just don't see that Dan is saying anything revolutionary. These options have been open to people for quite a while.

Maybe what he's after is to get rid of the stigma...which isn't very consequential these days either.

It's about the hypocrisy.

The problem here is that there are two conflicting values that are both important: honesty and sexual fidelity. Dan thinks that by being honest about man's biological imperative, family breakups would be reduced. I think it's sad that Arnold Schwarzenegger had to divorce over his infidelity. What's the bigger sin? Destabilizing a family through divorce or allowing partners a bit of sexual freedom?

Ross makes very good points when he accuses Dan of naivete. I'm wary that we could lose things that we never intended to lose.

Starwatcher162536 09-07-2011 12:49 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
I got bored with this one ten minutes in. ADD generation and all that. So pardon me if this justification was mentioned; The idea of my wife being fucked by another man would drive me crazy. Literally crazy. If I'm going to ask her not to have sex with other men it seems fair for me not to have sex with other women. Isn't this where monogamy originates from for most couples?

If neither party particularly cares that their partner is having sex with other people. Go for it. I don't see anything wrong with not being monogamous if it's all in the open.

sugarkang 09-07-2011 01:00 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by Starwatcher162536 (Post 224918)
I got bored with this one ten minutes in. ADD generation and all that. So pardon me if this justification was mentioned; The idea of my wife being fucked by another man would drive me crazy. Literally crazy. If I'm going to ask her not to have sex with other men it seems fair for me not to have sex with other women. Isn't this where monogamy originates from for most couples?

If neither party particularly cares that their partner is having sex with other people. Go for it. I don't see anything wrong with not being monogamous if it's all in the open.

Then you're completely aligned with what Dan was saying.

Sulla the Dictator 09-07-2011 01:15 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
Ugh, I hope we don't see much more of this offensive Dan Savage character. I remember thinking as I started watching this diavlog, "Every time I've seen this guy on television he's done nothing but advocate for the most revolting, base, thralldom to appetites and senses."

About where he compares traditional marriage to chattel slavery is where I stop; and accept him as an irredeemable degenerate. Dan Savage advocates for libertine lifestyles because Dan Savage doesn't want to have to deny himself gratification. Like a child.

Don Zeko 09-07-2011 01:33 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by Sulla the Dictator (Post 224925)
About where he compares traditional marriage to chattel slavery is where I stop; and accept him as an irredeemable degenerate. Dan Savage advocates for libertine lifestyles because Dan Savage doesn't want to have to deny himself gratification. Like a child.

He's not saying that. He's saying that in the past, when women couldn't own property and marital rape was legal, marriage could be similar to chattel slavery. I think this is understating the horribleness of chattel slavery myself, but it's hardly the crazy point you're making it out to be. Would you consider Dan's comparison unfair if he singled out marriage as it is practiced in Saudi Arabia?

sugarkang 09-07-2011 01:37 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by Sulla the Dictator (Post 224925)
Dan Savage advocates for libertine lifestyles because Dan Savage doesn't want to have to deny himself gratification. Like a child.

I can understand why you might find his value system repugnant. I can even understand an argument that if enough people started accepting open relationships, a breakdown in society would result. Ross concedes that this isn't provable, but I implicitly accept it as a valid concern, not just for social conservatives, but for our entire society.

Still, do you think he is disingenuous as to the importance of honesty in a relationship and that his real motive is to seek gratification at the expense of everything else?

graz 09-07-2011 01:57 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
Good matchup bhtv booker. Thanks.

Dan always has the advantage when paired with a conservative to elicit some squirming just by letting loose with the potty language. Ross did a fine job of taking it in stride. They really got to the crux of some inherent obstacles to unqualified agreement and acceptance of each others positions. Good stuff.

whburgess 09-07-2011 02:38 AM

What was the disagreement between these two?
 
As far as I could tell, the only disagreement between these two was that Savage wants to end the public perception that monogamy is the normative goal in marriage, and Ross wants to keep that public perception.
If there was any other disagreement, I missed it.

I think Ross is right that if monogamy was not the public perception of the norm in marriage that many people who would really be unhappy with non-monogamous marriage would feel pressured to enter them anyway. I think this would especially be the case with a lot of women.

As a man, I don't understand what is so difficult about monogamy. It seems to me that good sex takes team work and the longer the team is together the better the sex gets. I don't see why people find the idea of starting over with a new partner all that tempting. And particularly don't understand what is exciting about fumbling around with strangers.

Sulla the Dictator 09-07-2011 03:03 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by Don Zeko (Post 224927)
He's not saying that. He's saying that in the past, when women couldn't own property

Which is so distantly in the past it is irrelevant. Which means the matter is raised in order to slur proper marriage.

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and marital rape was legal,
....and how widely practiced?

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marriage could be similar to chattel slavery.
In no sense. Married women who were contemporaries of legal slavery certainly recognized the difference in their status. Those women, BTW, could still own property. Which shows how ridiculous Dan's point is. When we speak of traditional marriage, we're not talking about Medieval hamlets in the Holy Roman Empire.

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Would you consider Dan's comparison unfair if he singled out marriage as it is practiced in Saudi Arabia?
Yes, it would still be inane. Saudi Arabia has a class of virtual slaves; foreign laborers who have their visas and passports held at the whim of their employers. The Koran offers women more rights than the Saudi state does to these people, and Saudi women know that.

Dan Savage, like most of the cadres of the left, simply throws bombs at culture and sees what explodes. Year Zero through robbing words and institutions of meaning, rather than guns in the street.

JonIrenicus 09-07-2011 03:34 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
This was probably the most interesting values added I have seen so far on this site, particularly because you actually had a real clash of values hashed out for an hour. EDIT: (clarification: a clash of values on a topic I have interest in)

Both Dan and Ross are good arguers of their perspective, on a personal level I am much more in agreement with Ross here. I am sympathetic to having marriage be held up as some sort of idealized relationship. My only difference with him is that I am FOR allowing gays to participate in that ideal with each other.


The idea of chucking the societal expectation of monogamy between married people makes me a little squeamish. This is of course a value judgment, and we all draw our lines in the sand somewhere.

For a real world example, I find it infinitely more ennobling that a person like say, Dana Reeve chose to remain faithful to her husband despite the fact that he was impaired.

The idea that we would be better off living in a world where that choice is seen as just the same as her choosing to engage in an open relationship seems... darker and less ... pious? oh god, I am turning into a social conservative !!!!!!

someone help me

sugarkang 09-07-2011 04:40 AM

Re: What was the disagreement between these two?
 
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Originally Posted by whburgess (Post 224932)
As far as I could tell, the only disagreement between these two was that Savage wants to end the public perception that monogamy is the normative goal in marriage, and Ross wants to keep that public perception.
If there was any other disagreement, I missed it.

I think this cuts to the chase.

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I think Ross is right that if monogamy was not the public perception of the norm in marriage that many people who would really be unhappy with non-monogamous marriage would feel pressured to enter them anyway. I think this would especially be the case with a lot of women.
I see where you're going, but I don't think it's the same. I think it's more like a choice between 10, 20 or 30 year home mortgages. There's always going to be some trepidation because the decision will be a big deal, no matter what.

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As a man, I don't understand what is so difficult about monogamy. It seems to me that good sex takes team work and the longer the team is together the better the sex gets.
It would be nice if everyone thought this. I think this attitude is indicative of a healthy marriage and relationship.

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I don't see why people find the idea of starting over with a new partner all that tempting. And particularly don't understand what is exciting about fumbling around with strangers.
I think it's the idea that sexual desire is a biological imperative. The desire is so strong that it manifests in consensual gay sex amongst otherwise heterosexual prison inmates. I'd like some data on the subject, but I don't think there are any PEW polls asking prisoners these things. Also, I've heard that we locate our military bases in areas where soldiers have access to prostitutes so that the men behave. That just makes good, practical sense to me. Perhaps video games and/or pornography have replaced the need for prostitutes. Maybe someone more involved with the military could comment.

So, Dan gives some extreme examples, but they seem valid, nonetheless. If a wife has a terminal illness and the man goes sneaking off, but fulfills his duties as a husband in other respects, how much should we condemn the guy? If we want to get real, we should talk about the choice between bad or worse. And in that scenario, I'd pick bad every time. This is also the line of reasoning I use with liberals regarding Rick Perry and McJob creation.

miceelf 09-07-2011 06:32 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by sugarkang (Post 224892)
Props to Dan for articulating my position on the failure of monogamy. Am I the only commenter to hold this view?

Pretty sure apple held that view as well. Indeed, that's how I assumed both of you were male, despite having gender-neutral or somewhat feminine monickers. I think Wonderment also holds that view, but I might be mistaken.

I do NOT hold the view; I prefer monogamy. I suppose that makes me conservative.

I haven't heard this diavlog yet, but I hope Ross isn't representing my "side." I like Ross, but I think he has some strange ideas about marriage. I don't think his views are necessary to a general belief in monogamy.

miceelf 09-07-2011 06:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Starwatcher162536 (Post 224918)
I got bored with this one ten minutes in. ADD generation and all that. So pardon me if this justification was mentioned; The idea of my wife being fucked by another man would drive me crazy. Literally crazy. If I'm going to ask her not to have sex with other men it seems fair for me not to have sex with other women. Isn't this where monogamy originates from for most couples?

If neither party particularly cares that their partner is having sex with other people. Go for it. I don't see anything wrong with not being monogamous if it's all in the open.

Yeah, that's essentially my view; haven't listened to the diavlog yet. Not having sex with other people isn't even in the top five of onerous things I do to maintain my marriage. (shrug).

Hume's Bastard 09-07-2011 06:40 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by sugarkang (Post 224892)
Props to Dan for articulating my position on the failure of monogamy. Am I the only commenter to hold this view?

Honestly - because honesty should always be the norm on a public forum (irony alert) - I would take Dan Savage's arguments for a starting point, too. But, I'm still stuck right at the beginning of this discussion where both just skated past the empirical issue. The whole discussion is in danger of collapsing into anecdote and innuendo, if we don't get hard facts in a way where we can trust what respondents tell researchers. I could recount some some of my own dramatic history with family and colleagues, but no one would tolerate those anecdotes as a theory for a second. I don't want this thread to be littered with that crap, either. I don't think most people do have a picture of human desire, relationships, etc that goes beyond anecdote and personal experience AND a heady dose of delusion.This is one topic where cold data is necessary before any charged moral debate occurs.

I'm also reminded today that the evidence that homo sapiens mated with other hominid and ape species is growing.

Hume's Bastard 09-07-2011 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Sulla the Dictator (Post 224925)
Ugh, I hope we don't see much more of this offensive Dan Savage character. I remember thinking as I started watching this diavlog, "Every time I've seen this guy on television he's done nothing but advocate for the most revolting, base, thralldom to appetites and senses."

About where he compares traditional marriage to chattel slavery is where I stop; and accept him as an irredeemable degenerate. Dan Savage advocates for libertine lifestyles because Dan Savage doesn't want to have to deny himself gratification. Like a child.

I take it a Savage vs. Marcotte pairing wouldn't appeal to you. This exactly the sort of spleen I don't want this forum to collect now. Masters and Johnson, Hite, or Kinsey...that's where I would start.

whburgess 09-07-2011 07:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Hume's Bastard (Post 224943)
This is one topic where cold data is necessary before any charged moral debate occurs.

I'm also reminded today that the evidence that homo sapiens mated with other hominid and ape species is growing.

Men have been known to mate with a broad range of species, both of animals and wanton furniture.

Mares are quite popular in certain parts of Appalachia. And men have been known to even fall in love with that special horse and let neither taboos nor oppressive laws stand in the way of making love to her a second time!

This is not an attempt to start a charged moral debate.

Hume's Bastard 09-07-2011 07:18 AM

Re: What was the disagreement between these two?
 
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Originally Posted by whburgess (Post 224932)
As far as I could tell, the only disagreement between these two was that Savage wants to end the public perception that monogamy is the normative goal in marriage, and Ross wants to keep that public perception.

I think that covers it, too.

I wonder of Douthat thinks this transcendence he advocates is an individual thing, or a quality all humans as social creatures share.

Hume's Bastard 09-07-2011 07:22 AM

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Originally Posted by whburgess (Post 224945)
Men have been known to mate with a broad range of species, both of animals and wanton furniture.

Mares are quite popular in certain parts of Appalachia. And men have been known to even fall in love with that special horse and let neither taboos nor oppressive laws stand in the way of making love to her a second time!

This is not an attempt to start a charged moral debate.

And, I think this just scratches the surface of human sexuality. I think this is pertinent for a discussion of expression versus repression. I'm inclined to think both approaches are inherently dangerous.

BornAgainDemocrat 09-07-2011 07:29 AM

What is marriage for?
 
Marriage is for children. Everything else is beside the point.

Hume's Bastard 09-07-2011 07:33 AM

Re: What is marriage for?
 
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Originally Posted by BornAgainDemocrat (Post 224948)
Marriage is for children. Everything else is beside the point.

have you listened to Bryan Caplan on this point?

badhatharry 09-07-2011 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by sugarkang (Post 224906)
It's about the hypocrisy.

The problem here is that there are two conflicting values that are both important: honesty and sexual fidelity. Dan thinks that by being honest about man's biological imperative, family breakups would be reduced. I think it's sad that Arnold Schwarzenegger had to divorce over his infidelity. What's the bigger sin? Destabilizing a family through divorce or allowing partners a bit of sexual freedom?

Ross makes very good points when he accuses Dan of naivete. I'm wary that we could lose things that we never intended to lose.

So I guess you think that most of the infidelity occurs on the male side. I didn't get that far into the diavlog but what I heard is that people should realize up front that it's likely that one of the partners in a marriage is going to cheat (although he dislikes that term and it wouldn't be cheating under Dan's paradigm) and it should be in the forefront of negotiations in any marriage.To have and to hold until someone else catches my eye but always know I'll be back.

Which brings me to Schwarzenegger. It is actually interesting that Shriver would divorce him. She comes from a long line of adulterers and you would think she would have been quite used to that program. I think she was embarrassed by the situation and that's unforgivable With the maid???

Of course we will lose if this becomes the norm, but I doubt it will. They tried this in the 70's, as was pointed out. It never took hold except in the counter-culture.

badhatharry 09-07-2011 09:00 AM

Re: Values Added: Monagamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
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Originally Posted by sugarkang (Post 224928)
Still, do you think he is disingenuous as to the importance of honesty in a relationship and that his real motive is to seek gratification at the expense of everything else?

What is preventing Dan Savage and all who agree with Dan Savage from being honest? The only rub in this case is finding someone who will accept your program. This shouldn't be insurmountable but it may take a little more time to find someone to tie the slip knot with.

I guess I just don't get Dan's issue.

badhatharry 09-07-2011 09:02 AM

Re: What is marriage for?
 
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Originally Posted by Hume's Bastard (Post 224949)
have you listened to Bryan Caplan on this point?

How funny. I thought he meant people who get married are childish.

So you're liking that econtalk thingy, eh?

harkin 09-07-2011 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Dan Savage
"If there's anything we know about gay sexual cultures over the last thirty years....it's basically consequence-free".

And the band played on........

Yes I realize Dan said it in context of Ross's comment on pregnancy but it's just such a shocking bit of nonsense that it had to be called out. Promiscuity seems to be such an important facet of the gay community that now some seek to promote it to married couples. In cultures where it is widespread it seems to create many more problems than it solves.

Still disappointed that BhTV went to The Stranger for a dialogue participant and it wasn't Lindy West to talk film.

Romanized 09-07-2011 09:32 AM

Re: Values Added: Monogamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
Define our own standards. Like choose your own adventure. This in no way will end badly.

Gay Marriage
Open Marriage
Man-Boy Marriage
Human-Animal Marriage

And the decline of the West continues. Thanks Dan.

graz 09-07-2011 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Dan Savage
"If there's anything we know about gay sexual cultures over the last thirty years....it's basically consequence-free".
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Originally Posted by harkin (Post 224955)

And the band played on........
Dan was presenting that in an ironic way as a counterpoint. You may not have listened carefully, or only skimmed, but in greater context you'd recognize his true meaning.

eeeeeeeli 09-07-2011 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Hume's Bastard (Post 224943)
Honestly - because honesty should always be the norm on a public forum (irony alert) - I would take Dan Savage's arguments for a starting point, too. But, I'm still stuck right at the beginning of this discussion where both just skated past the empirical issue. The whole discussion is in danger of collapsing into anecdote and innuendo, if we don't get hard facts in a way where we can trust what respondents tell researchers. I could recount some some of my own dramatic history with family and colleagues, but no one would tolerate those anecdotes as a theory for a second. I don't want this thread to be littered with that crap, either. I don't think most people do have a picture of human desire, relationships, etc that goes beyond anecdote and personal experience AND a heady dose of delusion.This is one topic where cold data is necessary before any charged moral debate occurs.

Well said. Although to be fair, forums like this are good places for anecdotes to be offered in order to at least illuminate possibilities - especially ones we ourselves have not experienced.

miceelf 09-07-2011 09:59 AM

Re: What is marriage for?
 
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Originally Posted by BornAgainDemocrat (Post 224948)
Marriage is for children. Everything else is beside the point.

I'm against child marriages.

But in all seriousness, no. It's not. At least not for me, or for my religious fellow travellers. Marriage is for companionship; this is why we don't terminate marriages once there are no more children forthcoming, and why infertile and older couples marry all the time. The fact that a companionate marriage happens to also produce the best environment for raising children is a plus.

miceelf 09-07-2011 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Romanized (Post 224957)
...
Man-Boy Marriage
Human-Animal Marriage

Gee, thanks, Rick Santorum. Any other completely irrelevant things that Dan has never argued for you want to throw in there?

Cannibalism?

rfrobison 09-07-2011 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by miceelf (Post 224961)
Cannibalism?

"A sandwich is just a sandwich, but a manwich is more like a meal!"

Winspur 09-07-2011 10:42 AM

Re: Values Added: Monogamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
I am really looking forward to watching this. I choked on my arugula when I read that "Ross accuses Dan of naivete about social institutions." Yeah, someone who happily writes about BDSM and furry fetishes is more naive than the conservative Catholic. Obviously.

Romanized 09-07-2011 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Winspur (Post 224963)
I am really looking forward to watching this. I choked on my arugula when I read that "Ross accuses Dan of naivete about social institutions." Yeah, someone who happily writes about BDSM and furry fetishes is more naive than the conservative Catholic. Obviously.

How does being into smut protect you from naivety, especially regarding traditional institutions?

Winspur 09-07-2011 11:34 AM

Re: Values Added: Monogamish Edition (Dan Savage & Ross Douthat)
 
After 40 minutes in, I have no idea what Ross' position is, other than a vague discomfort with the idea of non-monogamous marriage. I'm glad he said this, though:

"The decline of marriage in the United States is a straight phenomenon that has very little to do with gay marriage and the gay agenda..."

It would be nice to see that appear in his next column, just to make things clear.

sirfith 09-07-2011 11:34 AM

Ostracize Dan Savage
 
Dan "doorknob licker" Savage needs to be ostracized from polite society like Bob believes should be done to Ann Coulter.

Dan Savage Redefines "Rick"
Here is how we should redefine Dan Savage = Savagely waving a Bloody Fecal matter covered fist in the air at the Rethugs.

miceelf 09-07-2011 12:10 PM

Re: Ostracize Dan Savage
 
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Originally Posted by sirfith (Post 224967)
Dan "doorknob licker" Savage needs to be ostracized from polite society like Bob believes should be done to Ann Coulter.

I wish I could say "well-played" or something of the sort, but I can't.

Perhaps someone will give you a participation ribbon.


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